Monday, March 24, 2014

Baby #2: Boy or Girl?

UPDATE: It's a boy!

Amber has a lot of doctor's appointments, but today's is an exciting one. It was the one in which doctors may or may not be able to tell whether the small human growing in Amber's belly is a boy or girl. If they are, the plan is to have them write it in a sealed envelope so we can open it together tonight. (Or, you know, tomorrow. I think it might be fun to sit on it for a night. I mean, we've still got five months to go before the baby is born.) With Marla, we did the "gender surprise at birth" thing, and that was fun, but this time we kind of just want to know.

So...do we have a preference? Boy or girl? I can only speak for myself here, but here's how I see it, keeping in mind that I have to be very careful what I write in case baby #2 reads this when he or she is older.

I have gone on the record as saying that one of each - one boy, one girl - was optimal. That way, we get to experience what it's like to have a daughter, and what it's like to have a son. Going along those lines, that would mean we're hoping for a boy.

However...I think having two daughters might be fun. Two sisters generally bond a little better than a brother and sister do. Might be kind of fun to watch their friendship (or perhaps rivalry) grow over the years. And, having another girl would be easier: we already know what to do, we already have a whole bunch of little girl clothes, and the general consensus is that girls are easier to raise than boys are, especially if you've already had a girl.

But on the other hand...do I want that much estrogen in the house? (Actually, I think it could be fun.) Is there a chance we'll give all that money we saved on clothing back when daughter #2 gets married? (Yes.) Does having two daughters limit our ability to go on family curling road trips when the kids are older? (To some extent, because if we have a boy and a girl, we'll be able to enter "mixed" bonspiels as a family, instead of only entering "open" bonspiels. That's assuming both kids are interested in curling, of course. Big if.) Also, there's this: we already have a boy's name picked out from the last one, but we haven't agreed on a second girl's name quite yet. When it comes to baby names, we're kind of picky, so those discussions could be a tad contentious. But if it's a boy, we won't have to have that discussion!

Basically, what I'm trying to say is that there will be nice things about having a boy, and there will be nice things about having a girl, and it'll be great either way.

Many parents make a whole big shindig out of the baby gender announcement by hosting a party or making a cute video or something along those lines, particularly for their first kid. That's fine if that's how you roll, but we'll announce in a little more low key manner. (Probably.)

3 comments:

bubba0077 said...

Odd. The consensus among my family is that boys are much easier.

Chris Allen said...

I was thinking more for the first few years, but after that, I think you're right.

bubba0077 said...

Yeah, boys might be a little more rambunctious when they are young, but girls tend to be more of a handful the rest of the way, even setting aside the sexual concerns once they are teens. (Says the guy without kids.)